How to create the life we dream about
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The Easter holidays and the spring which is symbolically the time for change, I have thought about the dreams and the life that makes me dream.
Over the years I have dreamed of: career, location of living, look, clothing, travel, Mr. Perfect, experiences, fashion weeks, different forms of success …. The list is long.
As I enumerated the different elements of my dream life, I made a retrospection and came to the conclusion that at one time or another each of them was perfect and realized. Only, never all at the same time. Besides, I realized in the course of time I have changed, so did my dreams and my ideas. (It was really hard and painful to admit my dream, partially realized, is no longer the same, and it is time to change direction. I even rejected this idea at first, because I thought it was a manifestation of weakness and abandonment, inability to complete a “project” to the end.)
This has helped me to remember it is only me who can create the lifestyle I dream of (and update it in line with my evolving dreams).
In fact, when I created Styleinspiratrice.com about 6 years ago, I was basically led by my great love for fashion but somehow instinctively – also by my desire to make my life more interesting and different.
Based on some personal experience and some books and articles, I think there are a few key questions to ask ourselves so that we can create the lifestyle that makes us dream:
- What makes me wake up early in the morning (long before the alarm clock rings)?
When I started the blog I felt more energetic than ever before in my life, I was getting up very early, filled with energy, and I felt so happy and enthusiastic. I think I will never forget these days.
- Where do my thoughts go when I have some free time (what do I dream about)?
- What gives me the sense of meaning, the feeling that I am doing something meaningful and important?
- What am I really good at (and others reaffirm it)?
- Is there a song / poem / story / film / photo that brings me an association of dream life, how exactly do they look, what they contain?
I came to the conclusion the most important thing is to listen to ourselves and, if we have to – give us the time to understand and understand what really matters to us at this moment. (In fact, if you take a look at my Instagram feed, you will notice quite clearly this change even in the way we started shooting our blog stories).
Sometimes, when I think about my dream life, these lyrics from Jay Z’s song pop up:
So we live a life like a video
When the sun is always out and you never get old
And the champagne’s always cold
And the music is always good
And the pretty girls just happened to stop by in the hood
In this post I have a very literal parallel. When I really want to make an amazingly cool picture and I do not have the right environment at hand, I’m rolling my sleeves and create it. Specifically here I wanted a really rich, gorgeous background – I made this garland myself and … voilà!
I’ll be glad if you share my thoughts or personal experiences on the topic : )
Photos: Martina Todorova